shadowpelt
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Post by shadowpelt on Aug 25, 2007 19:24:20 GMT -5
Does anyone here have that problem?
I recently came out of the "closet" but I don't know what to say do my dad and the rest of my family for fear of what they may say.
Maybe we can all talk about it some how and figure out something to try.
Btw, I am back. Sorta had to take a long break.
Also, sorry if a thread like this is already posted.
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Hero
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Post by Hero on Aug 26, 2007 0:02:47 GMT -5
No worries, SP.
Being gay is a choice, really. Although one can associate it with a 'born trait,' that is a pretext. In reality, you choose to be gay; it doesn't choose you. You can stop just as easy as you can start it. I know several people at my church who were gay but have recently made the decision to stop, so to speak.
In my opinion, you should keep it a secret. I do not know your family, but it would be best if you kept it hidden-- for you sake and your family's.
Hope all goes well for ya. ^.=.^
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shadowpelt
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Post by shadowpelt on Aug 26, 2007 0:07:37 GMT -5
I see. It makes sense..... hmmmm
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Hero
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Post by Hero on Aug 26, 2007 0:09:09 GMT -5
Do you feel like you should tell them?
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DarkDragontc
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Post by DarkDragontc on Aug 26, 2007 1:25:45 GMT -5
I understand how you feel Shadow. Welcome back btw.
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Post by Atecom on Aug 26, 2007 3:19:42 GMT -5
I partially agree with hero, dont tell them specially, after all does a straight person go to their parents and tell them their Hetrosexual. I feel theres no need, but I also feel theres no need to hide who you are, unless your dad finding out meaqns you wil get beaten or something, then discresion will be the wiser move. Also Teens is a time for experimentation, many teens will find that at one time they are bicurious, then later on realise they are straight or gay, It would just be awkard to tell your parents are gay, then turn out to be hetro. However I am speaking from my shoes, not your parents.
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shadowpelt
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Post by shadowpelt on Aug 26, 2007 11:12:27 GMT -5
Very very true Atecom. I can see were tat may be a problem.
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Post by audra on Aug 31, 2007 13:18:24 GMT -5
Coming out to family is ... awkward to say the least. I tried to tell my mother, and actually succeeded. She just looked at me and said 'it's a phase, it'll go away'. Here I am, ten years later, and it still hasn't. Now I'm rather hesitant and unable to work up the courage to tell her again that I'm bi. My advice? Find out what your family thinks of homosexuality first of all. But even if they say it doesn't bother them, be wary; people often don't react well when a seemingly distant issue is suddenly thrust in their faces.
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shadowpelt
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Post by shadowpelt on Sept 3, 2007 14:06:10 GMT -5
Good point. My dad says he doesn't mind them at all as long as he doesn't ge hit on, so I hope he wont mind when I do choose to tell him one day.
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Post by Tales_ Fanatic on Nov 23, 2007 14:56:18 GMT -5
I personally think that you should tell your parents at some point, but not while your a teen. I've tried to tell my Dad I'm gay and he scoffed it saying I don't know what love is yet. I'd say later when your older if you wanna come out, feel free. You actually feel better all around if you do come out, if your parents are grudgey at first, its understandable. Though don't be fooled by people saying being gay is a choice, since it is and it isn't. I feel gayness is related to genes per say, but thats just me. Having that "reaction" to the same sex isn't something that you can change automatically, I know, I've tried liking girls, but its never felt the same, nor to I get "aroused" by it. The only choice with gayness that you do have is weather you choose to be open with it to everyone or not.
So thats what I say SP. Hope that helps ^^
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dragon.up.resource
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Post by dragon.up.resource on Dec 25, 2007 4:10:35 GMT -5
Hey being gay in the US of A is easier than in SG. SG has more "gay-fearing" people so its harder for people like me. Teenage period is a time when you discover stuff like this, so if it doesn't go away then it really is who you are.
If it's natural curiosity, you'll get your chance sooner or later to find out which you really prefer.
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Post by strongfire14 on Feb 2, 2008 16:14:04 GMT -5
well, thats true I found the way to express part of myself in Power-metal, cuz, to be a PWM, i have to ' pretend' to be gay but not to be gay, well, im bisexual with inclination towards gay but thats the perfect way to be secure, and my friends dont hate me (yet) thats good. the bad side is, like in most of situations like this, sooner or later the true appears, that almost happened to me several times and i don't know how, people still thinking im straight :S Now relationing SP situation with mine, im a boy who doesn't care about love and that stuff yet, i preffer to be with my friends or in pc playing wargames and that stuff. Im not ready to leave the closet, i prefer the darkness ( speaking Literally and metaphorically)
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Post by The Italian Dragon on Mar 19, 2008 18:43:16 GMT -5
You can crefully, one step at the time speak about what being gay is. And when you think that's they're ready to listen the new.. drop the bomb and if they start to act like if you're mentally sick and that they want to send you to see a psychologue stop them IMMEDIATELY ! Why ? There are some reasons because of it: first of all, explain to them that it's likeit and you can't change that and that's it isn't your fault. Second of all send you to see a therapist is nothing else than losing time: you're not mentally injured or God kows what else. ANd also speak about this to an unknown person is humiliating and painful. Trust me for it. I had a big depression a couple of years ago and my mother sent me a therapist. That girl looked like she was trying to help me but when I understood that she was tooking care of my problem as much as a big pile of bullparcs ( sorry for the rufe word) I basically said nothing afterwards. Also my anger against my mother was increasing day after day so one time I lose control: I said to my mother that shw was a prostitue and the only good thing that she knew to be good at is sex and I tried next evening to stab my step-father. Nice no ? Basically they tried to dodge the problem but 'tis one hit 'em in the ass ! And to add an ugly thing my anger changed in hatred and now each time that I'm getting angry I want to rip out my interlocutor's throat, to rip his/her eyes out and the most frightening thing that when I imagine that I want to laugh, a looot. So the result ob being to a therapist didn't changed my problem ( my bes friend and ADJL did) and now I have to face my evil side that is becoming day after day, week after week more powerful. That's why I say that's it's losing time to send you to a therapist. At the maximum it will injure you because yyou'll start to think that you're different.
Phew ! Write all these things it's painful but if it's to help you I'll do it again if I need. Keep courage !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Your friend, the Italian Dragon
PS: now you know why my personal notes about me are '' My evil powers are increasing strength day by day...''
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Post by dragonuproductions on Nov 25, 2008 4:32:22 GMT -5
I can see how that's a problem, but if you really want to be gay, there's nothing your family can do to stop you. You need to know your family good enough to believe that they love you enough to understand, if you think they do, you shouldn't be worried about telling them, and if they don't, well I guess we're back to square 1 then.
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Post by Atecom on Nov 27, 2008 1:08:22 GMT -5
Please be careful not to necrobump.
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